We hear this word every day, everywhere, from our homes, our telephones, from friends, colleagues and even strangers. We even hear it from the songs we listen to and the movies we watch
Actually this phrase is used everywhere and every time that it makes it appear that everyone loves every one and that love is all around us.
However you will bear me witness that the above is not necessarily true.
Let’s face it! Around us we have people that really don’t wish the best for us, we have people that don’t care about us and we even have haters. So love cannot be everywhere.
Some people openly argue and say that not everyone deserves to be loved. I have heard this statement several times, “she is so unlovable”. Or “I don’t feel him or her”. Then I ask, is love a feeling or a choice?
MY OPINION IS THAT; LOVE IS A CHOICE.
Because of the above, everyone is capable and deserves to be loved. I don’t have to feel you or feel good about you to love you. I can choose to love you with your weaknesses and strength. After all nobody is perfect. We are all imperfect beings who God chose to love despite our sinful nature. We should do the same to others regardless of age, race, tribe and physical appearance.
A PIECE OF ADVICE THOUGH…., DON’T SAY I LOVE YOU IF YOU DON’T MEAN IT!
Have you ever used the words “I love you” as a way to get something you wanted? Or even just as a compliment? Or maybe to offset something mean that slipped out, like saying to a friend, “You look like a mess — but I love you!” Sometimes those things happen, and if there’s no easy way to get around a mistake, “I love you” seems to be a sufficient fix to the problem.
Many people have come to the point where it’s easy, and even convenient, to throw around a phrase that used to mean everything. Some people just don’t understand that if we said it a little less, it might mean more when we do say it. If we said “I love you” only to people we truly loved, we’d hear this phrase a lot less.
The phrase means a lot to whoever hears it. Let’s say it only when we mean it.
There have been great moments in my life. These have been absolutely life changing. Lets look at them together.
1. Getting married
This was such a life changing moment. I entered this institution with excitement. I had looked at marriages around me and they looked blissful. I wanted and hoped to get that same blissful experience in my own marriage.
Seven years down this marriage road and am happy to report that am glad i got married at the time i did. There have been ups and downs, but not enough to take away my joy of being married.
2. Jeremiah’s birth.
Jeremiah is my first born son. His birth was so important in my life. Experiencing and going through the process of bringing forth a baby for the first time was both elating and life changing.
This experience made me honor my parents more and also praise God even more. How he forms a baby from very small seeds, how he sustains them in the woumb for none months aND HOW HE BRINGS THEM OUT is and will always be a mystery. He is God in all things.
3. Jason’s birth.
Jason is my second born son. he is so adorable. Has such a sweet and unique voice. His birth cemented my life time role of being a mom. Having one baby is one thing, having two is a completely new level.
Having them both call you and ask questions at the same time, yell, shout and run around the house when you are trying to concentrate is more training in this life career of being. I have learnt to remain calm, composed and loving in such times even when i feel like yelling back and ordering them to shut up.
4. Janelle’s birth.
Janelle is my third born daughter and the only girl. Her birth was such an exciting moment for the whole family. I remember my husband taking time to read about fathering a daughter when i was still pregnant. At Five months, they already have a great father-daughter bond that is amazing.
The boys cant get over her. They are always around her, kissing her chicks, hugging her and so much more. They are so happy to have a sister.
Janelle’s birth in one way reminded me of my womanhood. I love these four great people in my life. My husband and my children. I thank God every day for them. They have changed my life forever.